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Husbands Out to their Wives A moderated e-mail list that serves bisexual and gay members who are married, partnered, separated, divorced, or in the process of getting a divorce. A few members are not out to their spouses or partners, but want support for how to tell them and their children. Registration is required.

Forum for Married Bi Men A moderated Yahoo! Group for married or partnered bisexual men where they discuss their relationships.
Warning: picture on home page contains nudity. Yahoo! Group registration is required.

Closed-Loop Relationships A moderated Yahoo! Group for men who are in closed-loop relationships. A closed-loop relationship consists of a female spouse or partner and two men, at least one of whom is married or partnered, in a separate committed relationship. Once established the relationship is exclusive. Yahoo! Group registration is required.

Gay Married Men Group A moderated Yahoo! Group where gay married or partnered men meet to talk and to support each other. Yahoo! Group registration is required.

Different Spokes A bicycling club for the LGBT community and their friends in the Seattle/Puget Sound area. For a one-time fee of $5, you can become a member, which allows you to post/access bike rides and social events on our calendar, discuss club activities on our message board, and share photos. Volunteerism is the basis of Different Spokes. You lead our rides, serve on our board, and organize our social events.

Bottom Dwellers A GLBT and straight diving club based out of Seattle. We have members throughout Washington State & British Columbia. The emphasis is on great diving.

Pride League Is Seattle's fun Bowling League. If you are looking to bowl on inclusive adult gay friendly, lesbian friendly, transgender friendly, straight friendly bowling league, then this is the league for you. We bowl every Sunday night at 6:30 PM at West Seattle Bowl. Come join a fun, great group of bowlers with all skill levels. Averages from 80 - 200+ are bowled on this league. Our mission is to have fun, enjoy bowling and socialize with fellow gays, lesbians, transgender and straight people. Get exercise and enjoy a little fun competition.

Emerald City Softball Association Is open to both gay and non-gay men and women. Playing levels range from advanced to beginner and cover four divisions (A, B, C & D). Division placement depends primarily on player ability and overall team ability. Every year the top teams in all divisions win entry to the NAGAAA Gay Softball World Series.

Orca Swim Team Founded in 1984 by a group of swimmers preparing for Gay Games II, The Orca Swim Team is dedicated to promoting the sport of swimming and to educating the public about the value of sports in community-building. We are the premier Gay/Lesbian and Gay/Lesbian-Friendly swim team in the Pacific Northwest. We welcome all swimmers who have an interest in adult competitive swimming and friendly fitness. So if you’re interested in being awesome…

Seattle Frontrunners Is a walking and running club composed of over 350 LGBT active members and their friends. We promote a healthy and social environment and provide members with opportunities to give back to the community, participate in team events, and make lifelong friendships. We welcome the participation of everyone regardless of sexual orientation or athletic ability. Runs and track workouts are held every week. For more information visit our web site.

Out Ventures Is an outdoor organization for the GLBT community based in Seattle, serving a membership in the Puget Sound region and larger Pacific Northwest. We are a member-lead organization focusing on the outdoors, engaging in all types of outdoor activities ranging in difficulty from easy to extreme. We welcome anyone that wishes to join and hope you will lead an adventure or two. We also have monthly potlucks during the summer as well as occasional classes and social events.

Seattle Tennis Alliance Is the largest tennis organization serving the Puget Sound area's gay and lesbian community and its friends. The STA includes players at all skill levels, from beginner to advanced (NTRP 2.0 - 5.0) and is dedicated to supporting the competitive and social tennis activities in the GLBT community.

Seattle Quake Rugby Football Club Is a non-profit, community-based, amateur athletic organization. Our mission is to foster local, regional, national and international participation and competition in the game of Rugby Union Football, and to create an environment where members of the community can learn the laws and practice of Rugby, thus improving their capabilities as players. The Quake is especially focused on providing opportunities for learning and playing competitive Rugby to communities traditionally underrepresented in the sport, including gay men and men of color.

Seattle Volleyball Club

Jet City Hoops Is Seattle's co-ed GBLT basketball league. We are the largest GBLT league on the West Coast and one of the largest GBLT leagues in the nation. JCH offers a Recreational Division for beginning to mid-level players and a Competitive Division for more advanced players. The goal of Jet City Hoops is to provide a welcoming environment for players of all skill levels. We also sponsor socials throughout the year to help players get to know each other off the court as well as on the court.

Olympic Yacht Club Is the oldest Gay & Lesbian yacht club in the Pacific Northwest and has been an active boat club since 1979. Members home ports center around the Seattle area, but range from Olympia to Oak Harbor and Bremerton to Wenatchee. OYC is a group of 100+ men and women, who individually own approximately 65 boats (about half power & half sail), from kayaks to ski boats to mid-size cruisers and blue water yachts. OYC is open to all who believe in safe boating, good friendship and respect for the environment. Owning a boat is not a requirement for membership, but that is the best way to get out on the water! We will ALWAYS make room for an OYC member (or prospective member) at any rendezvous. All of our meetings and outings are open to all.

All in the Family Join the first LGBTQIQ&F Ultimate Frisbee Team in Seattle!! We play in the DiscNW Team Leagues and would love to have you on the team! We're a social team, beginners welcome! All ages and experience levels, come out and play! Winter games will be on Saturday afternoons on fields throughout Seattle, from January through March.  For information email:

Team Seattle Fosters support for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) communities in Seattle. We seek to promote health, educate new athletes, develop communication between various sports teams, and work together to attend local, regional and international sports events. Leaders from many teams come together and form our board of directors. We welcome ideas from every sport to make the Seattle area a better place for LGBT sports and recreation. Additionally each team, league, or group, has a board for it's own sport. Seattle has a vibrant LGBT sports community. We have well organized sports clubs, for running, walking, swimming, bowling, soccer, softball, rugby, tennis, water polo, track, volleyball, biking, skiing and snow boarding, and diverse outdoor hiking and camping activities. If you are a beginner, advanced, or anywhere in between, Seattle offers opportunity in most sports.

BiNET Seattle Is a bisexual non-profit, mixed gender, social and support organization created to foster a visible community for bisexual, bi-curious people, and their partners in the Puget Sound area. We support the community through educational speakings, support groups and social events. Bi-Out is the Speakers Bureau of BiNet Seattle. We've had speaking engagements for many diverse groups, answering questions and de-mystifying bisexuality. Contact Us if you're interested in getting a speaker for your class, group or function.

Seattle Prime Timers Prime Timers Worldwide, with more than 73 chapters worldwide, was founded as a social and recreational organization devoted to providing a focal point within the gay community for gay and bisexual Men over 40 and their Admirers. Prime Timers are a diverse group, enjoying the activities and friendships that they develop with their comrades locally and internationally.

Entre Hermanos To promote the health and well being of the Latino Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, and questioning community in a culturally appropriate environment through disease prevention, education, support services, advocacy and community building.

Trikone Northwest Is a vibrant, diverse group of individuals creating a social, supportive, educational, and political space for LGBTQ and differently-oriented South Asians and their family, friends and community. By LGBTQ and differently-oriented we mean those individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer and those who choose not to accept a label or prefer other identities such as hijra, kothi, meti, men who have sex with men (MSM) or women who have sex with women (WSW). We aspire to create a safe and inclusive world where differently-oriented South Asians can freely express themselves and reach their unlimited potential by building community, increasing social and political visibility, and promoting racial and sexual equality.

Seattle Gay Couples Is a volunteer nonprofit social group for gay male couples from all walks of life. We provide an opportunity for you and your partner to meet other gay couples, build lifelong friendships and explore gay-related issues of interest to you. We sponsor a variety of social events throughout the year.

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For Wives

Puget Sound Spouse Support A support group for the straight spouses and partners of gay men and lesbians that meets monthly in Bellevue, WA. For more information, email:

Straight Spouse Network A website for heterosexual spouses and partners, current or former, of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender partners that provides support and information for help in resolving coming-out issues for all family members.

Straight Spouses A moderated, confidential email list exclusively for straight spouses of bisexual, gay, or lesbian partners who are trying to keep their relationships intact and for those couples who are separating or divorcing, for keeping their relationship friendly and positive. To subscribe, email:

Straight Spouses in Mixed Orientation Relationships A moderated, confidential email list exclusively for straight male and female spouses or partners of bisexual/gay/lesbian partners who are working to strengthen their relationships. To subscribe, email:

Alternate Path A moderated Yahoo! Group for wives of gay or bisexual men who are seeking alternative solutions to divorce or separation. Yahoo! Group registration required.

Wives of Bi/Gay Husbands A moderated Yahoo! Group exclusively for girlfriends, wives, and ex-wives of bisexual or gay men. Members network and explore the full range of emotions that are involved in the coming out process for the straight spouse. Yahoo! Group registration required.

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For Families

Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) A website for the parents and friends of lesbians and gay men that promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered persons, their families and friends through support, education, and advocacy to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights.

Hope Understanding Growth Support (HUGS Couples) A moderated, Yahoo! Group exclusively for couples of mixed sexual orientation who are working to keep their relationship strong and growing. Yahoo! Group registration required.

Spouse Support Mailing List A moderated, confidential email list exclusively for straight male and female spouses or partners of bisexual/gay/lesbian partners who are working to strengthen their relationships. The list also includes couples where one is bisexual and the other gay or lesbian and where both are bisexual. To subscribe, email:

Making Mixed Orientation Marriages Work A moderated, Yahoo! Group for men and women who are in mixed orientation marriages. Yahoo! Group registration required.

Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) A website for the children of all ages of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender parents that provides resources, education, support, and community and advocates for equal rights for their families. Email list available for children 14 years of age.

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Our Communities

Greater Seattle, Business Association (GSBA) A website for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and allied business and professional chamber of commerce, whose mission is to combine business development, social action and leadership to expand economic opportunities for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community and those who support equality for all.

Soulforce A website for gay, lesbian, and bisexual Christians. “Soulforce, guided by the spirit of truth and empowered by the principles of relentless nonviolent resistance, works to end the religious and political oppression of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning people.”

Equal Rights Washington Is a statewide political advocacy organization for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community of Washington State. ERW has successfully advocated for the Anderson Murray Anti-Discrimination law, the creation of the domestic partnership registry, the further expansion of domestic partnership protections, and the passage of the Healthy Youth Act. ERW works to organize the movement for equality, educate voters, and influence policy makers. We continue to advocate for the expansion of protections available to committed gay couples and their children while working toward marriage equality. We also work to ensure that healthcare providers meet the needs of an aging LGBT community.

Seattle PFlag Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, Bisexual and Transgender persons (PFLAG) promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and intersex persons, their families and friends through Support to cope with an adverse society, Education to enlighten an ill-informed public, and Advocacy to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights. For more than 30 years, PFLAG Seattle Chapter has provided safe spaces for LGBT people and their families and friends to make efforts to understand their differences and their common hopes for love, acceptance and equality. Monthly support meetings in Seattle are at Seattle First Baptist Church, 1111 E. Harvard, near the corner of Broadway and Madison.

GLSEN The Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. Gay fathers may remember their own experiences of bullying and exclusion and may want to go back to the education community to support and help youth. GLSEN Washington State is a chapter of the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, based in Seattle, with a support staff covering the entire state.

Northwest Bears One of the first organized bear clubs, was founded in the fall of 1990. The kickoff event was a potluck, which took place at a local bar and attracted over 100 men. Northwest Bears is organized as a gay men's social and service organization. Its purpose is to provide a focal point within the Gay Community for Bears and Bear admirers. Traditionally Bears are hairy men, maintain facial hair, and come in all shapes and sizes. Bears and Bear admirers are as diverse as the gay community itself. The Club does not practice exclusivity, but fosters a social environment that supports and promotes bonds of loyalty, friendship, and respect.

Seattle Movie Bears Is a social activity group for gay & bisexual men and their friends in Seattle. We get together on Wednesday nights (and occasionally on weekends) to see a movie at a local theater. New members can recognize the group by looking for the group of big and/or hairy guys or by asking, "Are you with the movie group?"

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